ZESTY V.

F*** You, I Love My Body!

2009-12-09T16:45:00.000-08:00

Aubrey O'Day says F*** you, to harsh criticisms about her body after a topless picture of her surfaced the internet.

Aubrey was performing at Las Vegas' "Peepshow" when someone took the picture. It surfaced everywhere and got harshly criticized by many including the infamous Perez Hilton. She posted up a video of how she felt about the leaked picture and exposes her natural bare body to prove that it is beautiful and she loves it. She also talks out about the image of women today.

Aubrey's Peepshow photo

Despite her many crazy acts in the media, this should defnitely be an an example for everyone. Sometimes you're going to have to ignore the haters and be sure about yourself. No one can validate you but yourself, or make you feel completely good about yourself. Instead of hiding into a ball when scrutinized, its best to speak up and be even louder than your enemies! Women especially get their bodies nitpicked everyday, if we speak out every time, then eventually people will shut up.

If you have your own "F*** you, I love My Body" story, Please share it with me by leaving a comment!!

~{"I don't like myself, I'm crazy about myself "- Mae West}~

LINGERIE FOOTBALL

2009-11-19T18:38:00.000-08:00

The following two videos and commentary in blue font is a post featured on one of the blogs that I follow Vivaville ,briefly discussing the Lingerie Football League (LFL). I decided to write my own response to this post.

These girls play rough!

"American Football has the most gender barriers. Women do not have many or any options to play football scholastically. The L.F.L. in its inaugural season will definitely draw male fans & women that are interested in football. Can this league evolve into something better where people will view it just to watch football?"

"Do you think this league is here to stay or a one hit wonder?

I had to write my own post about this for ZestyV because there are so many wrong things about this picture. And I’m not sure if the positive outweighs the negative.

We are more than just our looks

Vivaville does not discuss in detail the positive or many negative aspects of the LFL, which leaves me to do the task.

Supporters of the league have argued that the LFL could eventually lead to more successful women’s professional football leagues. If this is the case, it’s just another example of using women’s bodies and sexuality to achieve our goals. This is an insult to women because it is showing that we have no other way of achieving success and an insult to men because they are suckers for giving in so easily, just for some eye candy.

To reiterate, it would be another ploy used to show that women can only make changes by shedding some layers. And we know that that is not the case with influential women like Rosa Parks, Hillary Clinton and Oprah, all of whom have made the most important changes.

After watching several videos on their website, I could see that this isn’t their goal at all. Mitch Mortaza, founder of the league, wanted to mix the world of modeling and sports mainly for what he says is, “purely entertainment value” and to become mainstream.

The LFL

We have the same assets that men have

Women have brains and muscles just like men. Men have used these very two things to get ahead in sports. How are women supposed to be viewed as equals, if we can’t even reach our goals by using our brains and muscles like men have? By using our bodies and sexuality to get ahead, is showing that women are incapable and that the talents and assets we already have is not enough.

I’m not saying that if we take the same steps that men have taken that we’ll achieve the same results. Women will always have to work twice as hard for twice as long, but we’ve done it before and we can do it again.

Not enough protection

The skimpy outfits on these sexy girls may draw in viewers but it does not necessarily showcase the players’ talents. There will hopefully be many people who watch the girls and realize how good women can play football, but the overwhelming display of booty and breasts with every tackle and play, sends out a different message. The exposure can easily lead to a mass following of perverts than real sports viewers. Not only is the exposure unnecessary, but the women are not as physically protected as they should be. I would think that wearing a bikini while playing football isn’t the smartest thing to do. Luckily the women have the basic protective gear (shoulder pads, elbow pads, knee pads), but they are still really exposed to getting hurt. Any type of abrasion, mild or severe can be easily avoided if they are covered up more.

Lfl attire

Dangerous eye candy

Being eye candy is not the only type of attention the women will get. Obviously some men watching will hope for a nipple slip or two, or underwear tear. How are you supposed to expect respect, especially as an athlete, if your main viewers are only thinking of sex while watching you and undressing you in their heads?(which looks like it seems to be the point) This is not a Playboy photo shoot, or a club, or a high school cafeteria, this is supposed to be serious sports. And it’s definitely not that! Not to be overly dramatic, but what if some random guy decides to grab them, on the field or at an event, or even stalks one of the girls. We all heard about the Erin Andrews case. This stuff does happen people!

If one of the players were to complain about the negative attention, people would only respond ignorantly that she was “asking for it”. Danger can happen to anyone, but the women are really putting themselves out there, more so than any model would for example, because models work in a confined and safe studio.

The girls obviously working hard!

The effects on women

We have to think about how the LFL affects other women because the players themselves are women. The LFL’s goal is to become a mainstream professional women’s football league, which I and others hope will open up the doors for other leagues. It hopefully will allow females to play as little children, in high school, in college, then professional. Gayla Harrington, who is a co-owner of the LFL and interestingly also a member of the Independent Women's Football League(a real women's league) says, "It could be positive or a negative".It could be that people still don't take it seriously or it could help."

I know that when I was little I wanted to play football, and actually start my own football league! But what kind of message is it showing to girls when watching the LFL? Is it a message that says that any girl who likes football will one day get the opportunity to play? Or that you must look a certain way to play football, do it for the attention of guys, and always use your looks to be successful?

For the minor women’s professional football leagues that have surfaced throughout the years such as the WPFL, IWFL and NWFL, the women do not look anything like these LFL players. They are obviously much more muscular and wear the complete gear and attire. The LFL players on the other hand all look like models, again another example of unrealistic images of women! And if I was a professional female football player or just played football regularly, I would feel completely misrepresented by the LFL.

What a real player looks like!

Passion for the game

After watching some of the other professional women’s football teams, I realized how these women really love the game despite the little opportunities they have to succeed in it. When the Women’s Professional Football League arose in 1999, the women were only paid $100 a game! The pay has not changed much since then. These women are just as passionate as the men are about football. Meanwhile, the women of the LFL are obviously getting the most buzz but just don’t share the same passion, and it’s not fair.

This video below is from the Women’s Football Alliance.

This is a video from the Lingerie Football League.

Do you see the difference? In the second video, although the women of the LFL actually have the skills, it is not mentioned once! And I’m certainly not playing the devil’s advocate because you can easily find many more videos just like this. TV hosts, anchormen, and sports analysts all making perverted jokes about the league and their “tight end”, which the LFL website itself proudly displays in their playlists of videos!

To be fair, I found an article written by one of the players on the team.

Nicki Ghazian , LFL player responds to criticisms about her league

“The most common question I get from men after they realize I play for the LFL is “So do you guys practice in your lingerie?” While I find this amusing, as it makes apparent the laughable yet endearing qualities of the male psyche. I also find myself burdened, on a subjective level, having to break the mental mold the mass public has about the league on an individual basis. Yes – we play tackle football in our Lingerie. Yes I am a model, and some of my teammates are as well. However, the truth is that we are out there putting our bodies on the line, wearing drastically meager padding in comparison to our male counterparts in the NFL or NCAA. We have had broken bones, just in our last game I played the entirety of the game with a broken finger. Last week in the game between Dallas and Denver a player had her tooth knocked out. Many of the teams in the LFL play indoor and playing in lingerie only leaves you open to more turf burn. The truth is, we aren’t scared. We are out here putting our bodies on the line, playing a sport which in my opinion, takes the strength of a modern day Gladiator, and doing so only because we love the game and want nothing more than to prove that beautiful women can be strong and athletic.

There have been many times at practice that little girls have come by our field, and watched in admiration, and at times even started doing push ups next to us. I’m a law student, one of my teammates is a nurse, and many of my other teammates are successful business women. This is why I find it hard to believe that there has been so much feminist criticism drawn to the league, as I see it, what we are doing is a form of turning the tables around on society. It is an ingenious clockwork that founder Mitch Mortaza has come up with, he has allowed us women to manipulate our physical stereotype, using it to our advantage as an attracting tool, but allowing our skills as an athlete to awe and captivate our fans. Whether Mr. Mortaza knows it or not, I believe he is owed a ‘thank you’ by female athletes and feminists everywhere because he is enabling us to prosper on a level that has never been done before.

I have read many critical articles based on the feminist perspective, including renowned feminist Courtney Martin’s article, which inarticulately presses that “This is objectification at its most pernicious — give women an opportunity to participate in a sport that they haven’t had the chance to do for pay and publicly previously, but only let them do it if they are stereotypically pretty and willing to do it in their underwear.” While this statement on a prima facie showing may be true, it is important to delve into the issue further to asses what the league is really doing. What Ms. Martin fails to realize the congruous overlap between oppresive stereotypes and the mechanism to use it as a vehicle of empowerment. The LFL has created a symbiotic binary relationship where oppresive stereotypes have enabled women to attract and show the world their athletic prowess, and prove that two supposed opposites, beauty and strength can co-exist in one woman.”

My response to Nicki Ghazian

I’m honestly happy I ran into this because it should be essential to always know what the other side is thinking. It’s also pleasing to hear how hard they work and to know that most are successful in their private lives. Her interpretation of the LFL can be inspiring to hear, but it still does not override the flaws of the league and the overall business aspect to it. At the end of the day, it is still a business run mainly on the beauty and sexuality of women. It’s not realistic of the real life, football loving professional female players but only a slap on the face to them.

It’s great that the league shows that beauty and strength can coincide, but why does the view on beauty have to be so narrow? These women still don’t look like most of the women I see on a daily basis, that I consider beautiful. They look like everything we are used to seeing in magazines, which we already know is not representative of most women in America. This factor often seems to go unnoticed when talking about beauty.

Ms. Ghazian needs to realize the flaws within her industry and there is nothing that any feminist needs to thank them for. And although she and her teammates have an inspiring and positive outlook on the purpose of the LFL, realistically her founder Mitch Mortaza and supporters do not share the same view but rather a chauvinistic, business oriented one.

the girls during practice

Written below is both a negative and positive comment on Nicki Ghazian’s article:

1) “What you say about empowerment, strength, and wearing less pads than your male counterparts is true. However, would the league be as popular if you were wearing regular uniforms, that other just as talented and beautiful female athletes wear in other sports? Unfortunately I don’t think so. You wear lacey underwear, make out with other team players (I’ve seen pictures), and all your advertising is based on the fact that the players are sex symbols. It’s glorified mud wrestling. The team names themselves convey the message that the game is about sexy women bashing into each other. If you want to be recognized for being beautiful and strong, don’t play for a league that only wants to make money off of your bra size.”

2) “Niki Ghazian, bravo I got goosebumps while i was reading your article.you brought up so many important issues regarding women’s broad abilities which are being deliberately ignord by a male dominated society. Mr Mortaza as you mentioned coupled with the effort of your leaguemates team acknowledging women’s strengths is a way that will help build a strong foundation for a modern society.keep doing what you are doing.”

with the best wishes for LFL

Women have fought way too hard to see changes going backwards instead of forwards. We don’t need to be told to shut up, look pretty, dress skimpy, and go to the kitchen (or field). Whether you’re female or male, the errors here should be clear to see.

PLEASE LEAVE A COMMENT EVERYONE ON THIS TOPIC. I NEED TO KNOW WHAT YOU ALL THINK ABOUT THIS TOPIC!

~{Acts of inequality can easily be masked as revolutionary and unfortunately often goes blind to the victims of the injustice - Zesty Gabriel}~

He said..She said

2009-11-08T20:57:00.000-08:00

This past week, both Rihanna and Chris Brown sat down for an interview to discuss more about the beating, their feelings on the situation and their relationship. For Rihanna, it was her very first time opening up about what happened February 8th, that left her battered and bruised. For Chris it was really just another opportunity to apologize and to let the public know how he is doing throughout the whole situation. Chris already made a few public apologizes. He apologized to Rihanna in a statement earlier this year, he made a public apology video, he went on Larry King and he also wrote a song called "A Changed Man".

Rihanna's Interview with Dianne Sawyer aired Nov. 6

(Part 1)

(Part 2)

The same night on MTV, Chris Brown's interview aired on Friday the 6th but was actually recorded the previous Monday.

Remember:
~{Adversity precedes growth}~

"If Men Could Menstruate"...

2009-10-25T20:31:00.000-07:00

I came across a great essay from feminist Gloria Steinem. She is one of the leading feminists of the second wave in the feminist movement. This is a funny satire on how the world would be if men menstruated....

"So what would happen if suddenly,magically, men could menstruate, and women could not?

Clearly, menstruation would become an enviable, boast-worthy, masculine event:

Men would brag about how long and how much.

Young boys would talk about it as the envied beginning of manhood. Gifts, religious ceremonies, family dinners, and stag parties would mark the day.

To prevent monthly work loss among the powerful, Congress would fund a National Institute of Dysmenorrhea. Doctors would research little about heart attacks, from which men were hormonally protected, but everything about cramps.

Sanitary supplies would be federally funded and free. Of course, some men would still pay for the prestige of such commercial brands such as Paul Newman Tampons, Muhammad Ali's Rope-a-Dope Pads, John Wayne's Maxi Pads, and Joe Namath's Jock Shield's- "For Those Light Bachelor Days" .

Statistical surveys would show that men did better in sports and won Olympic medals during their periods.

A MAN ON HIS PERIOD!

Generals, rightwing politicians, and religious fundamentalists would cite menstruation as proof that only men could serve God and country in combat "(You have to give blood to take blood"), occupy high political office ("Can women be properly fierce without a monthly cycle governed by the planet Mars?"), be high priests, ministers, God himself ("He gave this blood for our sins") or rabbis ("Without a monthly purge of impurities, women are unclean").

Male liberals and radicals would insist that women are equal just different; and that any woman could join their ranks if only she were willing to recognize the primacy of menstrual rights ("Everything else is a single issue") or self-inflict a major wound every month ("You must give blood for the revolution".)

Street guys would invent slang ("He's a three-pad man") and "give fives" on the corner with some exchange like, "Man you lookin' good!

"Yeah, man, I'm on the rag!"

(OR YOU CAN BE A FOUR-PAD MAN!)

TV shows would treat the subject openly. (Happy Days; Richie and Potsie try to convince Fonzie that he is still "The Fonz" though he has missed two periods in a row. Hill Street Blues: The whole precinct hits the same cycle.) So would newspapers (SUMMER SHARK SCARE THREATENS MENSTRUATING MEN. JUDGE CITES MONTHLIES IN PARDONING RAPIST.) And so would movies. (Newman and Redford in Blood Brothers!)

Men would convince women that sex was more pleasurable at that time of the month. Lesbians would be said to fear blood and therefore life itself, though all they need was a good menstruating man.

Medical schools would limit women's entry ("they might faint at the sight of blood")

Of course, intellectuals would offer the most moral and logical arguments. Without that biological gift for measuring the cycles of the moon and planets, how could a woman master any discipline that demanded a sense of time, space, mathematics- or the ability to measure anything at all? In philosophy and religion, how could a woman compensate for being so disconnected from the rhythm of the universe? Or for their lack of a symbolic death and resurrection every month?

Menopause would be celebrated as a positive event, the symbol that men had accumulated enough years of cyclical wisdom to need no more.

Liberal males in every field would try to be kind to women. The fact that these "these people" have no gift for measuring life, the liberals would explain, should be punishment enough.

And how would women be trained to react? One can imagine right-wing women agreeing to all these arguments with a staunch and smiling masochism. ("The ERA would force housewives to wound themselves every month": Phyllis Schlafly. "Your husband's" blood is as sacred as that of Jesus-and so sexy too!: Marabel Morgan.) Reformers and Queen Bees would adjust their lives to the cycles of the men around them. Feminists would explain endlessly that men, too, needed to be liberated from the false idea of Martian aggressiveness just as women needed to escape the bonds of "menes-envy."

Radical feminists would add that the oppression of the nonmenstrual was the pattern for all other oppressions. ("Vampires were our first freedom fighters!") Cultural feminists would exalt a bloodless female imagery in art and literature. Socialist feminists would insist that, once capitalism and imperialism were overthrown, women would menstruate, too ("If women aren't yet menstruating in Russia," they would explain, "it's only because true socialism can't exist without capitalist encirclement")

In short ,we would discover, as we should already have guessed that logic is in the eye of the logician. (For instance, here's an idea for theorist and logicians: If women are supposed to be less rational and more emotional at the beginning of our menstrual cycle when the female hormone is at its lowest level, then why isn't it logical to say that, in those few days, women behave the most like the way men behave all month long? I leave further improvisations up to you.)

The truth is that if men could menstruate, the power justifications would go on and on.

If we let them."

Beautifully written, Gloria Steinem!

I Got That Good Hair!

2009-10-09T20:00:00.000-07:00

On Tyra Banks’ season premiere of her show, she did something no black female celebrity has done: She revealed her natural hair to all of America! Okay, maybe I’m exaggerating a little by saying NO black celebrity, but this is certainly a huge event for TV and American women. This new move covered headlines and is still being discussed today.

This action may have been something small, but the meaning is quite significant. Women around the world count on weave to help their appearance, especially those in the media. We look up to those women and want to look like them, and someone as influential as Tyra Banks showing off her natural look and loving it, will inspire many women.

Tyra Banks on the Larry King Show
(She discusses her new look as well as some other body issues)

So I want to ask…have we gone too far. Nowadays it is no longer women getting just a few hair pieces to make their hair look fuller or longer, MANY more women are wearing full head of weave or wigs. Women used to feel ashamed to admit they even wear wigs, but now Wendy Williams talks about it in almost every episode of her show. One guest actress even admitted that her husband has never seen her real hair!

It may have come to the point that women are even ashamed of their hair, especially black women. It is neither cute nor stylish to walk around with an afro like back in the 1970s. If you do, people stare or make comments, or call you “eclectic” , “retro”, or "revolutionary". Revolutionary to walk around with your natural hair texture?

And this weave business does not just apply to adult women, but teenagers and children as well. I myself have been wearing extensions since the age of 5. More and more children, mostly African American are getting weaves put into their hair, and teenagers now basically cover up their whole head with fake hair as well. The dislike for thick and kinky hair has made its way down to the younger generation of females.

Besides all the weave adding and wigs, we spend years of perming , frying and dying, that by the time we are in our twenties, our hair is so damaged we have no choice but to add weave to our hair. Our need to look good in the moment allows us to risk our hair's health and natural beauty.

( I think I see a resemblance)

As a woman that does all the weaving, perming, frying, and dying myself, I know it is really hard to get out of that web once it is spun. Once you begin perming, you feel can never go back to your natural kinkiness and your hair finally becomes manageable, not to mention silky. When you begin hot ironing your hair, you look into the mirror and love the results because now you look like your favorite celebrity. Then once you start weaving and wigging, you think it is the answer to life because now you can have your hair look anyway you want it to look and you barely have to watch out for the rain!

All of these feelings are magnified by of course the media (we always gotta blame them), other women around us , and the men in our lives that love our silky, long, fake(including perming) hair. We already know that we play monkey see, monkey do with the media and that our environment also influences us. It is customary for women to ask other women where they got their hair done. But the men in our lives are also very important. First of all, what woman is going to snag a man with unattractive or out of style hair? And like black women, black men have also created a dislike for the natural 70s afro look. Even women of other races and cultures that tend to have beautiful curly or wavy locks are straightening their hair for that typical all American look.

Women are dying their hair not just to be different but to give themselves a certain “look”. Over the past few decades, more and more women have gone blonde because supposedly “blondes have more fun”. When you open up Playboy Magazine, which is also looked up to as the pinnacle of sexy for mostly Caucasian people, most of the women are blonde, which of course influences women to get that look. Not to mention, Marilyn Monroe, who is often thought of as America's longest running beauty icon. Even many women in Asian countries are dying their hair as well to have a more European or American look.Women are willing to spend thousands of dollars to maintain their hair, but can barely pay for their bills.

Using your hair to show individuality:

But I am neither defending nor reprimanding the different uses of hair beauty. I think having all these options have helped in many ways. For people with damaged hair, weaves and wigs help, and for many others it is a way of showing individuality like the pictures above. But I do feel that hair beauty has gone too far. When little children are learning not to love their natural hair and people are using it to cover up their natural hair’s beauty, it shows that it has become a widespread issue.

My progression of weaving, perming, frying, and dying!

TOP 9 RULES TO WEAVING:

1) Always wrap your head at night with a scarf
2) Beyonce said it herself, "Pat your weaves ladies!"...don't be a scratcher
3) Gease your scalp everyday
4) Let's be honest...don't wash it everyday, you WILL damage it
5) If you are wearing a weave make sure your real hair is not ten times nappier than your weave, it just looks tacky
6) Make sure your wig is not pushed too far back
7) Do not let your boyfriend run his fingers through your hair
8) Do not be afraid to wear your scarf during the day if you are having a bad hair day, it beats having an ugly looking weave, trust me
9) And if you your hair is all natural, rock it loud and rock it proud!

Chris Rock has a very interesting movie coming out on this very topic called Good Hair coming out October 9. He talks about perming and weaves as well, most especially in the black community, but it really speaks to all people both women and men. It is not only very informative and interesting but hilarious as well.

Good Hair Trailer:

~{Don't ever touch a black woman's hair! -quote by :Every black man on earth~}

Which one of my hairstyles is your favorite?

What do you feel about women and weaves in general?

A Long Way to Equality

2009-10-05T20:47:00.000-07:00

If you thought that Hillary Clinton's success in the 2008 presidential election meant that we were pretty much close to our goal of equality between men and women...you thought wrong. We have a long way to go before we see more women not only in U.S politics, but also being respected on an equal level. The unfairness that I witness and hear keep me obligated to use my blog as a tool of equal rights for women and respect to us, among us, and within ourselves.

I came across a disturbing video depicting the very ugliness in politics against women that we often hear about but are too shocked to even believe true. Please watch this video: the WHOLE video. It is composed by the non-political organization New Agenda, which fights to put more women in power. I promise you, you will certainly be entertained by this video.

Hit her in the mouth with a "leg of lamb"? Little boys uttering, "put her in her place". And G. Gordon Libby, a prominent political figure stating, he hopes that another female politician isn't "menstruating" when working. These are just a few of the things that make me forget that I live in America, the land of the free, the place where justice and liberty preside. Where is all of that? I will not say much more about the video because I believe it speaks for itself. But I do encourage you all to keep your eyes open, your mind open, and try to be that little bit of difference in this country that we so desperately need.
Nobody can do everything, but everyone can do something

~{ How Wonderful It Is That Nobody Need Wait A Single Moment Before Starting To Improve The World- Anne Frank}~

Is Kanye Finally Getting It?

2009-09-14T21:08:00.000-07:00

Millions of sympathetic viewers watched yesterday as Kanye West rudely took the shine away from Taylor Swift during her acceptance speech and insulted her in front of America. Taylor Swift, a 19 year old country singer won her first VMA Sunday, Sept 13 2009, for best female video of the year.

Her competition: Beyonce, Pink, Lady Gaga,Katy Perry, and Kelly Clarkson. Yea, all the great ones basically.

Summary:

As she was reciting her acceptance speech, the always outspoken Kanye West, snatched the microphone from Swift’s hand to voice who he thought should have won.

Watch below:

At that moment I speak for America, especially the audience in the
theatre that night by saying we all felt so embarrassed and so bad for the poor girl.

Later in the evening, Beyonce won the award for best video of the year(but ironically lost for best female video?) and graciously gave up her moment in the spotlight to Taylor Swift so that Taylor could finish her acceptance speech. I think that was the best move Beyonce could have done. Not to mention that it was ridiculously self-less and so thoughtful. Beyonce certainly did not have to do that. The audience was grateful for Beyonce’s classy act as well as America and the crowd would chant Taylor’s name out of respect and love whenever they got the chance.

Throughout the whole evening, Kanye’s name, on the other hand, was booed, every time the audience got a chance to. And frankly, the bastard deserved it.
After the show, Kanye posted up the most half assed apology I’ve ever heard in my life.

This is what he wrote:

Kanye’s starts off his apology well said and it seems that he has realized what he’s done but then he restates in his apology the very same insult he uttered on stage! “Beyonce’s video was the best of the decade”. It is DEFINITELY not a sincere apology if you say sorry to someone but yet continue to repeat the same insults to them AGAIN in their face. Even thought the issue here is not how he feels but just the fact that he went up on stage, it still is not going to make Taylor feel any better by reading what he already declared out on stage!

Then Kanye continues on to apologize to fans and MTV, etc., but then again writed something else completely irrelevant by saying, "Welcome to the real world!". Welcome to the real world?? This certainly has nothing to do with the "real world", he was rude, obnocious, irrelevant and a just a bully. He's implying that this is just what happens in reality, but in reality, whether you are an adult, tennager, or child, what he did was unjustifiable.

Not to mention, right after the previous statement he says “…I’m a real fan of pop culture!”. Kanye west is definitely in no position to even think that his definition of “pop culture” is everyone else’s. I’m sure America and that audience certainly does not care about Kanye West’s opinions. Taylor Swift IS pop culture for many people and has been affecting a lot of lives since she’s been on the map. It is unbelievable that Kanye is apologizing to her about one incident while giving her a completely new insult at the same time.

He continues on to give justifications for his actions by stating that he once gave away his award to OutKast when he felt they deserved more than he did. But that does not matter. Unlike this situation, Outkast didn’t DEMAND that the award be theirs, I’m sure he wouldn’t have handed it over if that was the case. No justification for anything he did in the past, or any way he feels, takes away what he did. He just does not seem to get that jumping up on stage while ANYONE is speaking is completely disrespectful. He ended up looking like a complete fool and because of that he certainly did not make his point across to us.

Why?:
Now you already know what this website is about. And believe me folks, I WILL not exclude all the social factors that made Kanye feel so bold enough to do what he did. And you may not want to mention or acknowledge them, but I will.

This incident was definitely a race, age, and sex issue. Kanye himself is not any of these but it definitely influenced him in his decision making.

I do not know if you aware of Kanye’s stunts, but this is definitely not his first outburst.

Let’s look into the crazy world of Kanye.....

Kanye vs. The paparazzi

Kanye vs. MTV

Kanye vs. President Bush

Now after watching these I hope you have gotten a better understanding of Kanye’s mentality and how he handles displeasing situations

Now going back to our issues of racism, ageism, and sexism….

Do you think Kanye would have jumped on that stage if it was an African-American artist, like Rihanna, Ashanti, Usher, etc.? Probably not because then he’d be going against the morals and values he “claims” to have about black unity and empowerment. He would just be Bush if he did that right? (if you watched the videos you should know what I’m referring to).

What if Taylor wasn’t 19, but rather 30 years old? It probably would have put some more hesitation in him, because he would have more respect for a woman his age. Also, a woman his age who is much smarter and wiser would have definitely hit him up with a wise remark after his tactless stunt.

Lastly, what if Taylor was a man? Young or old, there’s a big chance there would have been some butt kicking on that stage.

With all three of these combined what if Taylor wasn’t a country a singer but a rapper. Kanye CERTAINLY would not have jumped on that stage, because I’m sure he would have been worried if he was going to get shot later that evening.

But Taylor isn’t any of these. She’s just a young, beautiful, white girl, definitely vulnerable and easy to hurt. One of the biggest and talented artists insulted her and left her for damaged goods on that stage.

Earlier today Kanye posted up a new apology, that still seemed drained of sincerity and probably forced out of him by a publicist. He says :
“I feel like Ben Stiller in Meet the Parents when he messed up everything and Robert DeNiro asked him to leave. That was Taylor's moment and I had no right in any way to take it from her. I am truly sorry."

He also spoke on the Jay Leno Show the night afterwards. He finally seemed remorseful for his actions. I hope his words are sincere and completely genuine.
Here's the interview:

Taylor, being the mature young woman that he is, has no response to Kanye but rather praised Beyonce for what she did. Taylor says, “I don't know him, and I've never met him, so I don't want to start anything because I had a great night tonight."

The fact is that Kanye was a coward.

He thought he was bold because he was able to jump on that stage and express his opinions but he wasn’t. He took advantage of someone’s weakness,and did the first immature thing that he could think of, instead of being respectful and holding's onto his opinions for a better time and situation. It's often the people that act out the most that are most insecure.

My only wish is that Pink didn’t win that award because she would have followed him offstage after his remark and whooped his behind (being the bad girl that she is).

Check out this funny parody of the situation:

Hot Sitcom Wives

2009-08-27T23:06:00.000-07:00

We’ve all sat down watching the Cosby show wondering how Healthcliffe Huxtable got with Clair or how Doug got with Carrie (King of Queens). These are just two examples of the many sitcoms that feature an average, not too attractive male, whom happens to have the hottest MILF as his wife.

Why is it that so many of these family sitcoms feature such unequal couples? Well frankly because it’s more important to have attractive women on TV than to have attractive men.
For decades we've seen shows upon shows and movies upon movies that have fit this mold, to the point where we don't even bat an eye because we are so used to it.

Leah Remini-King of Queens

It seems that overtime not only have people gotten used to, but would rather see a man with a trophy wife than an average looking woman with a trophy husband. This mentality is not something instilled in just men but shared by women as well.

Women will often harshly criticize other women for getting with a hotter mate than if a guy is with a hotter girl. I know we've all (especially women) heard statements like “How did she get with him?” Unfortunately women are known to be more critical at times to other women than men are to women: Whether it’s criticizing another female’s clothes, face, and body or insulting each other with words like bitch or slut.

But this common trend of hotter wives we see on TV doesn’t seem to do much with the female audience; it is mainly for the man. This trend could serve to possibly be an underlying message to all average looking men that they are capable of getting with a hot girl.

Constance Marie Lopez-The George Lopez Show
Kellita Smith- The Bernie Mac Show

This trend also goes along with the issue of women having to always look beautiful and be the idea of perfection. The media has always put more pressure on women than on men to look good. These shows make it seem realistic for women who are married and have 1+ kids to manage to stay in complete shape, be a size 0, have hair and makeup always done, while still doing the cooking, cleaning and being on time.

To all women: THIS IS NOT REALISTIC!

To the women who actual fit this mold, more power to you. Please tell us your secret! And although this is not impossible for women, it’s still hard to keep your family and work in order and still look like a supermodel throughout it all. We don’t have that luxury. Not to mention, after all those kids, who expects a woman to stay a size 6 or below? This is just not realistic.

Barbara Billingsley- Leave it to Beaver
(Not all of us can be like Mrs. Clever ,killer housewife and sexy while doing it)

Some of these shows have even realized the inconsistencies relating to this matter. In King of Queens, Doug is always stating how Carrie is too good for him. In Still Standing, Bill is also always commenting on his wife's beauty.

Jami Gertz- Still Standing

Courtney Thorne-Smith - According to Jim

This is why I love shows like Desperate Housewives and Sex and the City where all the men are especially very handsome. Four averagely pretty, middle aged women hooking up with gorgeous men: we should be seeing more of this on television. Women too should feel that their looks shouldn’t get in the way of their love life and finding an attractive partner.The media constantly rides on the stereotype that as women get older they look older and as men get older they look more defined. But women, if confident can possess the same type of advantages that these men on TV have, at any age.

I’m sure we’ll have many more sitcoms to come with that quintessential “hot wife”, because the idea of a trophy wife is still a huge part of both women and men’s mentality. But I hope that as time progresses, we can have less pressure on women to be the supermodel trophy wife, and more women in realistic settings. I also hope to see more women, especially older women with attractive men as their co-stars.

{~The very least you can do in life is figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope~}

Some more Hot wives!

Patricia Heaton- Everbody Loves Ray

Suzanne Pleshette- The Bob Newhart Show

Katey Sagal- Married With Children

Megan Price- Grounded for Life

Meredith Baxter-Family Ties

Lois Griffin-Family Guy

Marge Simpson-The Simpsons

She's not the hottest, but that blue hair adds a bad girl streak

Changed Man...After only 6 months?

2009-08-18T20:53:00.000-07:00

Chris Brown has a new track titled "Changed Man". From the lyrics, the song seems to be addressing his relationship with Rihanna and how the world views Chris today after the whole issue.

Here's the video to the song "Changed Man" and the lyrics to go with it.

"Daily Ive been waiting, for the time to pass and let it fade in but baby my patience, its driving me crazy makin me fall a part.

What you do, when the truth is aint quit enough
They lookin at you , telling you ,
we need to break it up.
You need the trust what you do, cause you need love.

But imma make it up to you and show the world,
im a changed man.
Cause you mean that much to me,
I don't wanna be done.
I doin that all again, everybody hates Chris,
they can never understand.

Can we love,
Can we love,
Can we love,
Can we love,
Can we love,
Can we love,
Can we love again.

Girl I know I told you, baby this ain't over,
this ain't over It ain't over.

I remember ya touch, god, I miss you so much.
Please believe me, baby Im sorry.
And all of this money im thinking can't ever amount to every morning when I see your face.

What do you do, when the truth is ain't quit enough
They lookin at you , telling you ,
we need to break it up.
You need the trust what you do,
cause you need love.

But I make it up to you and show the world,
im a changed man.
Cause you mean that much to me,
I don't wanna be done.
I doin that all again, everybody hates Chris,
they can never understand.

Can we love,
Can we love,
Can we love,
Can we love
Can we love,
Can we love,
Can we love again

Girl I know I told you, baby this ain't over,
this ain't over It ain't over.

Saying sorry just to make it all right, ( I know, I know)
Know I believe it we can make it ,if we try, if we tryyy!

Imma changed man,
Cause you mean that much to me,
I don't wanna be done.
I doin that all again, everybody hates Chris,
they can never understand.

Can we love,
Can we love,
Can we love,
Can we love
Can we love,
Can we love,
Can we love again

Girl I know I told you, baby this aint over,
this aint over It aint over"

After reading the lyrics, its obvious this has to do with Rihanna. Whether this is how he really feels or is just playing on his situation to get some album sales is very unclear.

But a "changed man" after only 6 months? This is certainly not the case. What people need to realize, is that people really need A LOT of time to change, and this applies to relationships and friendships. Women, if your boyfriend did you wrong and you broke up with him because of it, three months of being apart does not change a person. Men, if your girlfriend did you wrong, the same applies for her. I have heard of too many incidents where people have taken back their bad boyfriends and girlfriends and have gone down the same road of deciet, pain, and tears.

When it comes to friendships, it may take even longer for a person to realize their faults and for the wounds to heal. If problems aren't completely resolved and talked out, don't expect time going by to always make a person see the error of their faults, especially when its only been a few months. It takes YEARS for a person to change, to grow, to mature and really become a changed man or woman, especially when this happens to be a 20 year old immature pop star.

Many, including Chris himself, need to realize that he is only a 20 year old BOY. He's never been through such scrutiny in his life, and probably has never been through such a strong relationship with someone before Rihanna. Besides going through this very difficult lesson, he is learning so much more to life. Hopefully Rihanna, who too is very young, doesn't fall to his apologies and claims of being changed. I hope that Chris eventually gets forgiven by the world including those closest to him and of course Rihanna, but it will take time for him to grow up and "change".

Refreshing New Artist: Janelle Monae

2009-08-11T19:12:00.000-07:00

New artist Janelle Monae has a great single “Sincerely Jane” that touches certain topics in a new way. From drug dealing, to teenage sex, and women in music videos , Ms. Monae leaves her listeners with a new perspective and in awe of her lyrical talent. This Kansas born native is slowly making her mark on the music business and showing all what a real artist truly is. Be sure to watch her video below for “Sincerely Jane” and read her powerful lyrics as well.

"SINCERELY JANE"-JANELLE MONAE

Left the city, my momma she said don't come back home
These kids round' killin each other, they lost they minds, they gone
They quittin' school, making babies and can barely read
Some gone off to their fall, lord have mercy on them
One, two, three, four, your cousins is round' here sellin' dope
While they're daddies, your uncle is walking round' strung out
Babies with babies, and their tears keep burning, while their dreams go down the drain now

Are we really living or just walking dead now?
Or dreaming of a hope riding the wings of angels
The way we live
The way we die
What a tragedy, I'm so terrified
Day dreamers please wake up, we can't sleep no more

Love don't make no sense, ask your neighbor
The winds have changed; it seems that they’ve abandoned us
The truth hurts, and so does yesterday
What good is love if it burns bright, and explodes in flames
(I thought every little thing had love yall)

Are we really living or just walking dead now?
Or dreaming of a hope riding the wings of angels
The way we live
The way we die
What a tragedy, I'm so terrified
Find More lyrics at www.sweetslyrics.com
Day dreamers please wake up, we can't sleep no more

I've seen them shootin' up funerals in they Sunday clothes
Spending money on spinners but won't pay college loans
And all you gangers and bangers rollin' dice and taking lives, in a smokey dark
Lord have mercy on you
Teacher, teacher please reach those girls in them videos
The little girls just broken Queen, confusing bling for soul
Danger, there's danger when you take off your clothes, all your dreams go down the drain girl

Are we really living or just walking dead now?
Or dreaming of a hope riding the wings of angels
The way we live
The way we die
What a tragedy, I'm so terrified
Day dreamers please wake up, we can't sleep no more

We live and then we die, and we never know the why
So now, now we go, down underground
We think that we can fly, but we never touch the sky
So down, now we go, down underground

Five, seven, eight, two, one
It is now time, for you to come home my dear
You've been gone long enough
You must come, you must go (verse not found in video)

I hope you enjoyed the song and her unique performance in the video as well. As you can see, Ms.Monae is very spunky and not going by the norms of what we usually see on TV. More importantly, her words speak volumes and can influence everyone, young or old. We don’t get a lot of music nowadays that actually makes us think.
I would have to say my favorite part of the song is the third verse : “I've seen them shootin' up funerals in they Sunday clothes
Spending money on spinners but won't pay college loans
And all you gangers and bangers rollin' dice and taking lives, in a smokey dark
Lord have mercy on you
Teacher, teacher please reach those girls in them videos
The little girls just broken Queen, confusing bling for soul
Danger, there's danger when you take off your clothes, all your dreams go down the drain girl”.

Beautifully written is all I have to say.

So instead of our usual Beyonce or Katy Perry in our diet, while you’re youtubing Michael Jackson, enjoying the music of a legend, take some time out to acquaint yourself with Janelle Monae and watch out for her upcoming success!

Chris Brown Finally Apologizes...But is He For Real?

2009-07-27T22:06:00.000-07:00

With all the questions, debates, and anger surrounding the Chris Brown and Rihanna fiasco, Chris Brown finally came out with a long awaited apology to the people. But with his calm mannerism and perfect speech, he has a lot of people wondering if he’s truly sorry. In the video, Chris Brown apologizes for the incident to his fans, explains that he is getting help, and wants to continue to be a “role model”. Surprisingly, he also says that he has apologized to Rihanna as well countless times.

This video does seem very well rehearsed, but I feel that that shouldn’t take away from the fact that he is truthful in his words. I do believe that Chris is sorry for what he did and actually wants to overcome all of this. No young man wants to be known to the world as a woman beater, especially one with the career and fame like Chris Brown. Chris is well aware that besides his music career being greatly affected by this incident, he really has let a lot of people down. Not just the fans, but the people in his life whom he sees and talks to everyday. He’s well aware that he’s lost many people’s respect around him. I’m also sure that at one point, and hopefully now still, he cared for Rihanna and now has completely traumatized her. I’m sure he’s aware that he has ruined a part of her life, because any woman that has gone through abuse suffers psychological problems years after the abuse has ended.

But of course this apology is a little tainted. Critics are upset because Chris decided to wait until after his court case to apologize because it would hurt his case and the ruling. Chris also has an album coming up, causing people to feel that this video is just meant to butter up his fans before the CD drops. People also feel that this apology came way too late. And when he actually did apologize the first time, back in February, he was very vague and wouldn’t even name Rihanna as the victim. According to some sources, Rihanna and her camp were appalled by his statements back in February because of the reasons stated previously.

Chris Brown’s apology in February:

"Words cannot begin to express how sorry and saddened I am over what transpired, I am seeking the counseling of my pastor, my mother and other loved ones, and I am committed, with God's help, to emerging a better person.”

For the beating of Rihanna, Chris is currently facing five years probation, 180 days of community service, and anger management counseling. This too has people angry as well, because many feel that Chris should have gotten jail time. Although Chris is a very young man, I do feel that there is no reason why he shouldn’t have gone to jail. Like plenty of other domestic violence abuse cases, the perpetrator usually always faces jail time. There is no excuse whatsoever for any man to put his hands on a female and beat her the way that he did. That type of animalistic behavior deserves a punishment to spend some time with some other animals, behind bars.

For those of you who did not get a chance to see the damage done to Rihanna, this is a picture taken by the police department after the incident.

I think what we can all agree on as a whole is that Chris definitely needs some help. Most men who do abuse the women in their life continue with abuse all throughout their life. For a young man like Chris, with all the pressures of fame and now all of this, there is a huge possibility that he will find himself in this exact situation again. And although Chris is an entertainer and loves his music career ,that should really be one of the last things on his mind right now. He should focus on getting help, working out the problems that caused him to act this way and fix all the ties he has broken with everyone in his life.

Read this interesting quote from a comment someone posted on Ew.com.

Reader says : “I wish people would leave him alone. And for everybody that is saying it is too late to say sorry. is wrong it is never too late as long as you own up to what you did and that is what he is doing owning up im proud of him it takes heart and a real man to say sorry. they both are young and dumb real dumb they rushed into the relationship and we see where that led to .all i am saying is give him another chance gosh. i mean if people gave R-Kelly (we all noe what he did ) another chance and Jay-z (who hit a female backstage at his concert which was caught on tape by the way and stabbed somebody at a CD release party ) another chance and any rapper who has claimed that they killed somebody and degrade woman(if you buy the CDs and listen to their music than you are supporting what they did to ) another chance than really we should be able to give Chris another chance.HE IS HUMAN GIVE HIM A BREAK.”

This is such a difficult topic and mostly everyone shares a unique opinion about the case. Please tell me if you think Chris is genuine in his apology, and whether his actions should be forgiven by the public.

Her Body's too Bootylicious for Him!

2009-07-21T17:26:00.000-07:00

Journalist Jason Whitlock just published an article on Fox's sportswebsite criticizing Serena William's lack of tennis achievements due to her weight and overeating. After reading a response from a journalist criticizing Whitlock and reading Whitlock's article, I was so angered and disgusted from his lack of respect for the tennis superstar and icon. Read what journalist Carmen Dixon wrote to Jason Whitlock. Beneath her article, I published what I myself sent to Mr. whitlock in an e-mail, hoping that the pervert receives it and reads it him self.

Why Jason Whitlock is Wrong About Serena Williams

Leave it to sports columnist Jason Whitlock to take a glorious moment of athletic achievement and pervert into an overly simplistic and degrading evaluation of appropriate female booty size. Just two days after Serena Williams triumphed in her third Wimbledon win, this time over her big sister Venus, Whitlock comes out with a column slamming her body and athletic accomplishments:

With a reduction in glut, a little less butt and a smidgen more guts, Serena Williams would easily be as big as Michael Jackson, dwarf Tiger Woods and take a run at Rosa Parks.

You can call me unfair. You can even scream that I'm sexist.

But there's an inescapable truth about Serena Williams: She's an underachiever. Source: Serena could be the best ever, but, Foxsports.com

Whitlock's pronouncement is insulting and uninformed. Let's take the insult first. Whitlock attacks Serena's beautiful, very muscular body indicating that it is in some way less than efficient - he basically calls her fat.

But he has no way of knowing Serena's muscle to bodyfat ratio. Because Serena is muscular, even a relatively low percentage of body fat will make her appear many times bigger than a less muscular, European competitor.

I may be an off season female bodybuilder carrying excess bodyfat right now, but even when I'm very lean, many people presume my size is mostly fat instead of rock hard muscle. Serena is solid, not a thing jiggles as she covers the court. That Whitlock has the gall to attack the size of her muscular derriere recalls historical subjugation of the black female body and he establishes no factual link between Serena's on court performance and her current weight. For instance, Serena may hit harder carrying a few pounds, and she certainly moves well. And if she was a little slow, maybe it was the hamstring injury she may have been dealing with?

God gave Serena everything, including drop-dead looks. She's chosen to smother some of it in an unsightly layer of thick, muscled blubber, a byproduct of her unwillingness to commit to a training regimen and diet that would have her at the top of her game year-round.

[and later]

BBWs - Big Booty Women - do not write me angry e-mails. I'm only knocking Serena's back pack because it's preventing her from reaching her full potential as an athletic icon. I am not fundamentally opposed to junk in the trunk, although my preference is a stuffed onion over an oozing pumpkin.

(A stuffed onion is a booty so round and tight that it brings tears to your eyes).

I'm sorry. I digress. Source:Fox Sports on MSN

"Oozing pumpkin." If you do not know who Saartjie "Sarah" Baartman (1789 – 29 December 1815), aka "Hottentot Venus" was, then please click on the link and learn. There is a legacy of dissecting the black female body in this degrading and dehumanizing way.

Now about Whitlock being uninformed. As a muscular athlete, I can tell you conditioning is just one factor in achieving peak performance. At her level, only Serena and her trainers and doctors know where ability and performance intersect for her. Mental toughness, pain tolerance, genetic physical issues are all factors that affect performance. Booty size is really irrelevant in the scheme of things.
-Carmen Dixon

Everyone please watch this video about Sarah Baartman... we ought to know our history.

MY EMAIL TO JASON WHITLOCK:

Mr. Whitlock, I did not know who you were before reading your article about Serena Williams and frankly I wish I still didn't. As a black man to say something so degrading and disrespectful to another black woman, that is shameful, pathetic and sad. Don't you think we have enough criticisms from other races constantly bringing down our whole race and enough hip hop videos bringing down black women as well? For you as a journalist to write what you wrote not only disrespects women especially your target, Serena Williams, but makes you look bad as well Mr. Whitlock.
You say you like a "stuffed onion" yourself, but you obviously really don't have an appreciation for the black w omen's body. Especially not to mention that you were criticizing the most successful female tennis player out right now, who is much more successful, smart, talented, and humble than you will ever be.
Just to give you a background on who I am. I am a respectable, young, female black college student. I own a blog to target and hopefully get rid of disgusting, degrading people like you and make ALL women feel good about themselves. And I will definitely be posting up some of your ruthless and thoughtless quotes. It's sad that a 19 year old girl has to call you out on your faults. And if you have a daughter Mr. Whitlock, or have one in the future, I would like to see your reaction when someone says the comments that you said to Ms. Williams, to your daughter.

Suck This!

2009-07-15T18:22:00.000-07:00

I recently saw a very interesting t-shirt on a train ride and quickly took notice of not only the picture on the shirt but the caption below. I was lucky enough to take a picture of the shirt, with the permission of the wearer. After sitting back down in my seat, I was anxious to find out what this shirt meant. When asking the wearer of the shirt what the shirt may mean, he simply replied, “I’m not getting into this conversation with you right now.” So since he was not able to interpret his own piece of clothing, (and rude enough to not answer, jerk), I’m asking what you guys think of this shirt. What do you think it is saying? Do you feel it is degrading or just a little scandalous?

Frankly, I think this shirt can be interpreted in many different ways. Judging from the fact that this wearer was a very young man (possibly between 19-22 years old), I'm sure he interpreted it as him getting “sucked”, preferably by a hot female like the one on his t-shirt. I think his rude remark said it all.

Overall though, this shirt seems to be just a raunchy t-shirt that is just merely pushing the limits. I think it can be interpreted many ways, and even possibly worn by females. Does it mean that it’s still not degrading? I’m not sure if it’s that black and white. I believe the shirt has multiple meanings for a reason.

Tell me what you think!

Ready...Set..GRAB!!!

2009-07-06T16:11:00.000-07:00

If a woman is skimpily dressed, is she asking to be touched? Is it ok if a guy automatically grabs her without her permission? Both women and men feel differently about this issue and the answer still remains up in the air.

Many people say yes. If a girl is walking down the street in a mini dress or extra short shorts, with her breasts possibly exposed, she will obviously get attention from guys. Wearing that type of outfit can definitely provoke a man to touch. A man might feel that if she exposed herself in that manner, she obviously wanted the attention. For many doing the “grabbing”, it can be viewed as something positive: like seeing what you like and letting the object know that it is desired. But for the one getting grabbed, it can be very offensive and a violation. Many women also do not like the idea because they feel that the man is viewing them as a slut or a whore.
Even heterosexual females will do the occasional breast or butt grabbing to their girlfriends. We’ve all had that day when our butts looked good in our jeans and heard, “Omg Melissa, you actually have an ass in those jeans!” or maybe we’ve heard “Wow Zesty, your boobs actually don’t look like mosquito bites today!”

Most females can attest to these incidents occurring at least once in life. Many can also say that at least once they’ve felt uncomfortable or offended.

With all that being said, they are still many people that feel that no matter what, people are not justified to touch you in any way. Many feel that no matter what, men should always be gentlemen. Women should be able to wear whatever they want without worrying if they are going to be groped. And many girls do not want to hear stupid comments from their girlfriends either. Sometimes a girl wants to look good in peace! Hearing that yesterday their breasts didn’t look big enough or their butt didn’t look voluptuous enough as compared to today, is not really a compliment. Being smacked and grabbed by either woman or man doesn’t always make a girl feel attractive.

You tell me what you think and leave a comment below!

Gentlemen and Rapper

2009-07-05T17:27:00.000-07:00

Aubrey Graham famously known for his great performance as Jimmy Brooks on the teen drama show Degrassi has just become a new rapper and hit sensation. Not only is he known right now for his lyrical talent but for being a very humble, down to earth gentlemen. Even old rap superstar Queen Latifah complimented the new artist as being very refreshing and giving women that good feeling while listening to his music, unlike many other rappers.

But his new video "Best I Ever Had" has a lot of people speaking and many women disgusted by the overwhelming display of breasts all throughout the video.
I myself am a fan of Drake and have been listening to him before people even knew he was a rapper. He is very positive in his music and demeanor, but this new video has pushed the limit. It is really hard to focus on anything else except for these women's breasts bouncing up and down throughout the entire video. The concept of the video is pretty good and actually entertaining, it is not like every other video with random women strutting in bikinis. I feel it would have been just perfect without the display of boobs, even with the occasional girl on girl stretching.

Take a look at this video and please tell me what you think. Below the video, there is an interview with Drake and Complex magazine, stating how he felt about the video. If you click on the link you will be on Drake's blog and will be able to read much more from this interesting interview.

Complex: Everyone’s been waiting on this video. Can you take us through the making of it?

Drake: Yeah. The video is directed by Kanye West. Basically we decided, as opposed to taking ourselves super serious, we just wanted to have some fun with it. Myself, being a young man, a young single man at that, I kind of wanted to be real about the way I function with women at this current point in my life. Which is, I don’t have one woman that I call my girl. There’s different girls in my life that play different roles and I see at different times, but collectively they kind of make up the roster of happiness for me [Laughs].

Complex: Understandable. So what’s the concept?

Drake: The concept of the video is, I’m a coach at a high school and the girls of my life are all on my high school basketball team. Throughout the video you see us prepping for this big championship game, and my team ends up losing. You see the looks on their faces at the end of the video, but the moral of the story, I guess, is win or lose, you can still be the best to somebody. When women see the video and see all the breast and ass, hopefully they don’t take offense. Hopefully they see the real meaning.

Drakes Blog: http://octobersveryown.blogspot.com/2009/07/drake-talks-to-plex.html

It's the Man's Turn Now!

2009-07-02T14:56:00.000-07:00

There was a recent photo in W magazine of celebrity Ginnifer Goodwin wearing some sleek, sexy two piece outfits surrounded by two topless, muscular, sexy young men. I know this scenario sounds familiar, but it is usually the other way around.
Of course we have had too many ads where the man is the main focus of attention and the women are just mere accessories. There have a billion and one protests and heated debates towards this too often occurrence. But in most recent times, things have changed where the woman is now the main focus, often fully dressed, with the guys being seen as the sexy, unclothed accessory. But we usually don’t hear any complaints about that,do we?

Well, some of the reasons for that may be obvious, others not, but this is rarely discussed.

One of the reasons can be that men are usually not seen as sexual symbols in America. Although we have our Brad Pitts, George Clooneys, Denzel Washingtons, and Robert Pattinsons (for the new generation), we will never have a male version of Marilyn Monroe, (an iconic sex symbol). Of course, men can be great eye candy for the heterosexual female or homosexual male, but women’s sexuality is just not perceived or exploited in the same manner as men’s sexuality.
Another factor may be that this is the women’s way of getting revenge. Women have too often been degraded and exposed; women and men might feel it’s the man’s turn now to show their goods. No more seeing only naked women or half naked women, or seeing a woman being used to sell a product, like beer. Men can also use their bodies as a sexual commodity and look very pleasurable to the public.

Revenge? Really Zest? We’re not that terrible.

Ok, so maybe it’s not revenge. Maybe times are just changing. People are realizing that women can be just as sexual as men. We want to see naked guys! Yes!
There are no more myths that women do not ever get horny (and the ones that do are whores), or that women view sex as torture. Women can even be accepted as initiating sex with a partner. All these things are acceptable and normal. So, men becoming more outwardly open with their bodies seem to be a sign of the times.

What do you think of this picture? Mere eye candy or a little degrading to our men?

Here are some more similar pictures. Tell me what you think.

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Here it is the other way around. Did you feel differently looking at this picture and the pictures above?

President of the Itty Bitty Titty Committee

2009-06-30T17:42:00.000-07:00

I once saw a friend when I was in high school, wearing a t-shirt stating, “President of the Itty Bitty Titty committee”. Of course, judging by the title, she wasn't speaking about her height and certainly not her brains but her....breasts!

The WOMEN’S BREASTS, formally known as mammary glands, also known as boobies, racks, “the girls”, and my favorite of course: tities! I will call them breasts for now. There are some women who take pride in their breasts. Many flaunt them and even give them names like men do to their penis. But unfortunately there are too many women who are ashamed of their breasts, most especially when it comes to size. Most of these women tend to belong to our so called “Itty Bitty Titty Committee”. (IBTC)

With all the attention put on women’s breasts, we now have a much younger generation now loathing their breast size. We also have many more high school girls considering breast implants and many receiving them as birthday or graduation gifts from their parents. In 2002, it was reported that 3,095 girls under 18 received breast implants and 3,841 in 2003. Last year, 4,100 girls under 18 received breast implants. These numbers represent fewer than 10% of breast implant patients. In 2007 18 and 19 year olds made up 9,000 cases of breast implant surgery. But the American society for aesthetic plastic surgery and other studies have found that with the slump of the economy, teen breast implant surgeries have fortunately diminished. I guess the recession is hitting everyone these days.

I want to ask my readers: Is all this necessary? And why do so many young girls want to mutilate their bodies to achieve an empty goal? (For the purpose of this article, I will not include medical cases where it is necessary or the problems of asymmetry in the breasts.)

The Media
Like with so many other self-esteem issues, we will have to go to our beloved media. Although many straight and especially younger girls are not running to the shelves to purchase the latest issue of Playboy magazine, they are well aware that most of these women are large breasted and have gone under the knife. Because these women’s large breasts have contributed to their success and because they are considered as being some of the sexiest women, girls begin to strive for that look.

We also have some of our most loved celebrities that have openly stated that they have had breast implants, don’t regret it and are not ashamed, which leads young girls to thinking that this is a possible option for them. It also allows young girls to not see any harm or risks in the surgery. Celebrities such as pamela anderson, carmen electra, janet jackson, jenny mccarthy and wendy williams have gone through it and although others haven’t come out about it, the change is obvious.

Another factor that seems to go unnoticed is surprisingly Victoria’s Secret. Yes, our lovely Victoria’s Secret. I have noticed that it has seemed to advertise larger breasts and convey the message that large breasts are usually sexier. Not only do they have a gazillion push-up bras to make women look bustier and plumper, but I observed something particular in the ads and magazines as well. All the models (whom many are not large breasted) looked at least one or two cup sizes bigger in their pictures. Their breasts were the first things you noticed…..and usually the last. What irks me about this the most, is that models are usually very tall and have a slim-like figure. If you have ever paid attention to women of this body type, they are usually small- chested, proportional to their body, of course (like myself). The unrealistic image of seeing all the models with such large breasts creates an also unrealistic image of the women’s body in the minds of women and men.

The Real World
But alas, we cannot blame only the media for the images of women’s breasts. What we have experienced plays a huge role on us. We have all experienced the flat chested girl in school being teased and the boys drooling over the freshly pubescent girl that just got two new bffs during summer vacation. So of course, as human beings we want to look attractive to our preferred sex. Girls want bigger breasts to get attention for guys. But what too many girls don’t realize is that it doesn’t really matter. YES, men do like big breasts, and it is their idea of “fun”…and nothing is wrong with that. But for most sweet and decent guys, they are absolutely fine with being with a small- chested girl. If a guy does decide to not be with a girl because she is small- chested, I bet my size A cups, that he is a shallow, insecure, self-centered jerk…or weirdo. And we don’t want that ladies, do we? Of course not.

Now no one is saying breasts can’t be sexy or flaunted. Making your breasts (either small or large) look attractive or fuller by either wearing a flattering bra or blouse is not wrong at all. But size should not matter. Just like all the many women who have gained success from their large assets, we have many other very sexy celebs that have stayed in the Itty Bitty Titty Committee (IBTC) and have been very successful. Sexy celebs like shakira, cameron diaz, zoe saldana, paris hilton, rihanna, kirsten dunst, and jennifer lopez.
So to my little cups out there, wear your IBTC t-shirt and spread the word!

This is a video of Shakira's "Whenever, Wherever" video, where she is stating her pride in her small breasts. Listen out for her saying "Lucky that my breasts are small and humble, so you don't confuse them with mountains"...............great song, check it out!

To read a follow up on a topic relating to this article, check out the next article titled "Gentlemen and Rapper". It includes a music video from the new rapper Drake : a very controversial video that has had many people talking and many women furious.